Dating too nice
However, my time is coming up as I have only one year left, and needless to say I have never had a boyfriend, or even a guy friend. I am not unattractive, I dress comfortably, I have a wide range of interests, I enjoy a good conversation, and I’ve traveled the world; yet I can be shy sometimes… For example I live in a house next to guys, and we didn’t really hang out with them.But sometimes we did, and it would be for hours, and we had a lot of fun.In fact, you might want to dial it back a little when it comes to being nice to guys. If you come on strong and starting doing things for them, they see you as a pushover, and someone they can take advantage of, but not keep around for the long haul. (Sounds like this is already happening a bit.) We would suggest waiting to start offering to “help” people until you’re actually dating someone, or in a relationship, not before. Relationship counselor and author Julie Orlov wrote, “The lie women have been fed is that only the ‘bad’ boy can provide enough passion and power to make a woman feel like a real woman.” She continued, noting, “They know who they are and what they have to offer.
“At work and school I have enough structure in my day, and the last thing I want in a relationship is predictability,” said Mindy L., 20.“For me, being “too nice” means that a guy isn’t adventurous or risky enough.Get my adrenaline going every once in awhile,” she explained.However, I sorta got close with one of them, hooked up with him, and then never heard from him again. And that was not the first time that I have only been used for physical purposes with guys who I thought were friends, and then they never spoke to me again.There are two guys that I work with who are very friendly, and very good looking.
Guy 1 lives right down the street from me (though he has a girlfriend), why can’t we even become friends? He had mentioned once a possible big group get together dinner, but it never happened. I am not desperate, I have not been around the block, and I am just a genuine person who is shy sometimes. (We’re not saying you are.) If a guy says you are just “so nice” what he’s really saying is he is not physically attracted to you enough to think of you any other way but nice. (And yes, you are definitely girlfriend material.) But having said that, also, please don’t go overboard. Also, see if your friends know some nice guys, maybe even your family. You might be surprised.) We hope this helps clarify some things. (Leave in the comments section below.) Thanks, THE GUYS ps.