Monogamous dating relationship
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Posted by Sandy Weiner in breaking up with grace, communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife | 0 comments — Christine and Steve (not their real names) have been dating for about a month.
Though I have said expressly in my profile that I prefer a single focus and want to be told if someone has other people in their lives (so I can figure out how to deal with it,) I keep having to find out well into the hot pursuit phase. Should I just get over hoping for monogamy so early in the game? One I feel I must have answered before, but can’t really remember.
I just feel the other people involved would be hurt if they knew the exchanges their lover is having with me, even if it’s just over the phone, and making plans to meet. To put a fine point on it: yes, you’re hopelessly mired in tradition. It’s a blind spot shared with pretty much every single person who is dating online. The most pervasive trait that I see in online dating is mind-numbing hypocrisy.
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Melissa Fritchle is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Sex Therapist with a holistic private practice in Capitola, California.
I live in a small retirement community with few men my age (54,) so online dating gives me access to a much broader field.
It also means a much longer introductory phase, and an awkwardly pressured scenario – if on meeting we are not attracted. But in the course of the protracted conversation, when the tone becomes increasingly intimate and anticipatory, I have to repeatedly face the unexpected revelation that the man I am “involved” with is involved, literally, with someone else, typically, an old girlfriend who is now a sex partner and good friend.
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” “It’s not fair that 50 year old men can date 40 year old women, but 40 year old men don’t want 50 year old women! So, Michelle, in order to be successful in online dating, you have to understand the rules of the game. It’s like walking into a swingers’ party and wondering aloud why everyone has no values. 3) I could spend a lot of time worrying about the suffering in Namibia or North Korea or Detroit, but I’ve got my own stuff to keep me busy.